Did you ever play the game "What are five traits of someone you deeply admire?"
If so, patronize me and play again. It only takes a moment but is worth a dozen.
Get a scrap of paper and a pen. Here we go:
Pick someone (or multiple people) you look up to, perhaps famous, historical, your neighbor, anyone you deeply respect or maybe would even love to have as your mentor.
Write down 5 of their traits that you most admire.
Now, look at the list. I bet you think those traits are incredible-- maybe even unattainable. What if you someone told you those traits you admire are who you really are? You may be thinking, “that's not me, that’s who I wish I could be.” In reality, you are those qualities that you deeply admire, but perhaps they need to be cultivated and made stronger, so they are available whenever you want or need them. By nourishing these qualities, you are building your life in a way that brings you to your highest potential as defined by "you" and no one else.
So, who is that lady in the airport? I have been asking myself that since 2012. To make a long story short, I hired a kick-butt, brilliant, fantastic coach (holy crap, maybe I have the qualities of my coach!) who asked me how I saw myself in the future. I said, “I want to be that lady I saw in the airport.” Done, that was easy! For some reason, she needed more information. Here is the story-
One day, I was racing to catch a flight to Chicago for a meeting; I was late, frazzled, sweating with the weight of my backpack heavy on my shoulders, angry that I didn't get any coffee, I hated the suit I was wearing...you get the picture. And there she was: a tall silhouette of a woman drifting effortlessly through the airport looking as if the light from heaven cast down on her. She was well dressed-understated, tailored, yet comfortable- gliding at a pace that looked slow while still covering a lot of ground. She wasn't on the phone, or searching for that darned Starbucks- she looked like she was on a mission, but a peaceful one. She had places to go and people to see, but she appeared grounded in her own being, as though at that moment, no one else existed- but she was present for all that existed. So, now you’re thinking, “Lex got that out of a two-second sighting of a woman in an airport?” It may seem strange, but I did, and I’ll never forget her.
Now, being the slow learner that I am, 2017 is winding down with 2018 around the corner and, suddenly, it all makes perfect sense! I am that woman in the airport!! I just need to work at it, a lot. I'm wired with a high idle and a busy entrepreneurial brain, but it serves me well (most of the time). Today I woke early, meditated, mindfully cleaned the kitchen, fed five dogs, made steel cut oats, brought coffee to wake up my loved one...all before 8 am! And, I glided gracefully through it all. I AM that peaceful, grounded, clear, beautiful woman in the airport, and I just need to work on it every day. For me, it’s an early start and meditation that grounds me in who I want to be, in who I am. Now I best go take a shower. I'm not quite ready for the airport in my robe.
Be who you want to be
Be the ball, be the lady, be the project but most importantly be yourself.